In 2007, the Italian police arrested Salvatore Lo Piccolo.

This guy was a real boss from a real Sicilian mafia.

When they studied his house, they came across what they considered them Official "10 commandments" of their crew.

In other words: "If you want to be a good gangster, take these 10 simple steps!"

1. No one can directly introduce themselves to another of our friends. It must be a third person.
2. Never look at your friends' wife.
3. Gliners can never be seen.
4. Do not go to pubs and clubs.
5. Always available to Cosa Nostra is a duty - even if your wife is to be born.
6. Meetings must be absolutely respected.
7. Wives must be treated with respect.
8. Asking for any information, the answer must be true.
9. Money cannot be appropriated if it belongs to other or other families.
10. People who cannot be part of Cosa Nostra: everyone who has a close relative in the police, everyone who has a two -way relative in the family, everyone who behaves badly and has no moral values.

These rules certainly do not cover every decision that every gangster must make every day, but are the principles that someone can learn, internalize and apply when they are in an uncertain situation and are not sure how to act.

MOB is not the only crew that also has rules.

The ancient samurai in Japan had "Bushido", or "The Way of the Warrior". 8 of the rules of their personal code of conduct:​

1. Justice (Justice)
2. Courage
3. Kindness (mercy)
4. Respect
5. Honesty
6. Honor
7. Loyalty
8. Self -control

Elsewhere, knights in medieval Europe had a "knightly code", which included such things as "protecting weak and poor, kindness and respect, courage and military efficiency."

Maximus Decimus Meridius in Gladiator and his colleagues soldiers always went with "strength and honor".

IN 300, Spartan soldiers knew that "he would return home with his shield or on it."

We have Principles of Fitness Nerd rebellion too!

I call these rules because we may not be gangsters, knights or samurai ...

But I bet that adding certain rules to your life can help.

The rules can help us make decisions.

Life is complicated, and our brains are able to talk to us and from various decisions.

However, when we have a rule, it allows us to make a clear choice, not to hurt over it.

More importantly. We can do the rule once, and then we do not have to waste brain strength or the will of the will with each decision later.

Here is a quick example:

Most of the successful popular diets are simply a list of rules that people agree Make you eat less calories.

• ​Intermittent post It means "I only eat between noon at 20:00".
• ​Paleo diet It means, "I don't eat anything that the caveman didn't eat."
• ​Vegan It means "I don't eat any products from animals."

I am not saying that none of these strategies is better or worse than any other. I recall these heuristics because they helped many, and for many they were useless.

Each person can come up with a set of aspiration rules that help them increase their lives.

I certainly have "Fitness", which I usually follow:

I know when I warn these rules, "dear Konjon", I have quite a good chance of keeping form, healthy and well copeing.

I also have rules on interaction with the world and Being a good man:

These specific rules may not work for you and this is fine.

They My rules.

Your rules must reflect your situation.

We respect the rules of others

Here is another funny hack: we may not like all the rules, but usually Respect the rules of other people:

Our colleague offers you a donut and you say "Ohhhhh, I shouldn't." They can come back from "Well, live a little" because they don't want to be the only person eating a donut ...

But if you say: "I have the principle that I don't eat donuts on weekdays," then you have a difficult principle that you follow, and your colleague probably respects it.

Some people can refrain from some dishes or drinks for religious or personal reasons.

There is no reason why you cannot have rules for any damn reason you want!

What are your rules?

A good combination of aspiration, professional and improving principles of society is a good place to start. Or hell, only one of them!

Heck, even one for everyone can be a good place to start.

These rules should be yours.

Here are some ideas that will help you start:

• In the work "I do what I say, I intend, according to the schedule or tell my team in front of the schedule if I need more time."
• With friends: "Always sending a notebook with thanks after I was invited by a friend"
• In the case of health "I drink alcohol only on Friday evening and Saturday while watching university football"
• To sleep: "I only watch 1 TV episode per night. Stop playing video games and turn off social media at 20:00. "

Start saving some aspiration rules and see how he feels.

I think that the more specific and passing/unsuccessful rules, the more likely it is that you will follow them.

Rules that actually help to make the right decision in difficult situations. You know, situations in which your brain lizard says: "Eat candy!" Or "drink drink" or "Stand late and doomscroll for 7 hours!"

The rules may also be ahead of them so as not to end in such situations, above all.

We can use technology, software for blocking application or recruit our friends to help us remain faithful to our principles.

After identifying your rules and actually save them, you follow how you deal with them.

If you feel more often than not, you break your rules, there may be a time to adapt the rules, deep thinking or working with a therapist to start inventing Why AND What's going on.

Remember that failure can be a hell of a teacher, and leaning into fear is a great opportunity to learn that life is trying to teach us.

-Steve